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Responsibility should be taught at an early age. There are tasks which teach responsibility that even an infant can accomplish.
9 – 24 months
- Putting dirty clothes in hamper.
- “Helping” with grocery shopping (putting items in basket and on check-out counter, handing things to mom to be put away at home.)
- Cleaning with mom (give child a dust rag, child size broom, empty spray can/windex bottle for “pretend” cleaning).
- Watering plants (with pre-measured amounts!).
- Beginning to help make beds – (begins with handing the pillows to mom until later).
- Yard work (helping collect trash and toys, etc.).
- Simple errands (“bring the diaper to mommy, please,” etc.).
2 – 3 years
- As language develops, requiring politeness on a regular basis (“Yes ma’am”, “No sir”, “May I please be excused”, greeting, etc.).
- Generally including child in every-day activities on a regular basis (cleaning, shopping, etc.).
- More complicated errands (“Take this towel and put it in the hamper”, etc.).
- Laundry (beginning to help with sorting by mom handing him things to put in appropriate piles, transferring clothes from dryer to basket, etc.).
- Learning more specific neatness qualities (putting toys in proper spots).
- Taking his dishes to the sink and helping to clear table.
- Carrying groceries in from car (give child one light item or a small bag).
- General errands (carrying diaper bag into meeting, carrying mom’s purse to the car, etc.).
- Simple decision-making (“Would you like juice or milk to drink?”).
- Put books and magazines in a rack.
- Place napkins, plates, and silverware on the table.
- Clean up what they drop after eating.
- Toilet training.
3 -4 years
- Making bed (begins with watching mom — mom helping child — mom watching child) standards must be clear and reminders frequent.
- Keeping room neat and taking daily responsibility for it.
- Regular morning routine becoming established (getting dressed, cleaning room before breakfast).
- More complex decision-making (“Would you like to wear the blue or green pants?”).
- Becoming “other-oriented” (drawing pictures for someone, making encouragement notes to dictate to mom, thank you notes for birthday gifts).
- Learning to use the telephone properly.
- Established and regular responsibilities (bedroom, getting the mail, emptying bathroom trash cans, etc.).
- Helping wash the car.
- Simple hygiene – brush teeth, wash and dry hands and face, and brush hair.
- Undress self – dress with some help.
- Carry boxed or canned goods from the grocery sacks to the proper shelf.
4 – 5 years
- Taking his laundry to designated place on laundry day.
- Sorting laundry with supervision.
- Begin learning to fold laundry and put it away.
- Hang socks, handkerchiefs, and washcloths on a low line.
- Vacuuming/sweeping.
- Cleaning table after meals.
- Helping with meal preparations (learning to measure, stir and use small appliances).
- Spread butter on sandwiches.
- Prepare cold cereal.
- Help mother prepare plates of food for the family dinner.
- Make a simple dessert (add topping to cupcakes, pour the toppings on ice cream).
- Hold the hand mixer to whip potatoes or mix up a cake.
- Setting the table.
- Taking out the trash.
- Helping make decisions about meal choices, outings, time with friends, etc.
- Carrying groceries in from the car and putting them away.
- Help with grocery shopping and compiling a grocery list.
- Polish shoes and clean up afterwards.
- Follow a schedule for feeding pets.
- Help do the dishes or fill the dishwasher.
- Dust the furniture.
- Share toys with friends (practice courtesy).
- Tell parent his whereabouts before going out to play.
- Play without constant adult supervision and attention.
- Polish silver.
- Polish car.
- Sharpen pencils.
5 – 6 years
- Unsupervised responsibilities (making bed, washing out trash cans, etc.).
- More complicated meal preparations (making frozen juice, toast, scrambling eggs, cutting with blunt knife, baking).
- Make own sandwich or simple breakfast, then clean up.
- Pour own drink.
- Prepare the dinner table.
- Tear up lettuce for the salad.
- Helping with younger siblings (changing diapers, helping with bath, bottle feeding, entertaining while mom is out of the room, feeding/dressing toddler siblings).
- Laundry (sorting, learning to use the washer/dryer, measuring detergent,fold clean clothes and put them away.) .
- Cleaning (using cleaning supplies properly, cleaning unsupervised areas like bathtub or polishing furniture, clean mirrors and windows).
- Sons — carrying “heavy” things for mom and helping with yardwork.
- By this time child will begin to carry out responsibilities unasked and begin to offer help in areas parents don’t require help in.
- Make bed and clean room.
- Dress on own and choose outfit for the day.
- Learn to tie shoes.
- Answer the telephone and begin to dial the phone.
- Yardwork.
- Pay for small purchases.
- Help clean out the car.
- Take out the garbage.
- Decide how he wants to spend his share of the family entertainment fund.
- Feed his pets and clean the living area.
6 – 7 years
- Simple meals prepared (making sandwiches for lunch, preparing drinks, fixing breakfast for mom and dad, preparing salad for dinner, peel vegetables).
- Regular quiet time becoming a part of daily routine.
- Totally unsupervised laundry responsibilities when needed.
- Increased responsibilities for younger siblings (dressing infants/toddlers, entertaining them for longer periods by reading to them/playing records, etc., helping school them).
- Learning the purpose and beginning usage of tools (lawn mower, hand tools, etc.) and helping with home maintenance.
- Shake rugs.
- Water plants and flowers.
- Prepare own school lunch.
- Help hang clothes on the clothesline.
- Hang up own clothes in the closet.
- Gather wood for the fireplace.
- Rake leaves and weed.
- Tie own shoes.
- Care for his own minor injuries.
- Keep the garbage container clean.
- Clean out inside of car.
- Straighten or clean out silverware drawer.
- Oil and care for bike.
- Take phone messages.
- Run errands for parents.
- Sweep and wash patio area.
- Water the lawn.
- Wash dog or cat.
- Train pets.
- Take pet for walk.
- Carry in the grocery sacks.
- Get self up in the morning and go to bed at night on own.
- Learn to be polite, courteous, and to share; respect others.
- Carry own lunch money and notes back to school.
- Leave the bathroom in order.
- Do simple ironing.
8 – 10 years
- Complete responsibility for their rooms on a daily basis (bed making, dresser drawers, closet, vacuuming, etc.).
- Unsupervised yard work (i.e., lawn mowing, edging, clean-up, gardening).
- More complex meal preparations (pour and make tea, coffee, and instant drinks, using sharp instruments, baking, using appliances, beginning meal planning).
- More difficult cleaning projects (scrubbing kitchen floor, windows, cleaning appliances).
- Summer jobs (lawn mowing, dog sitting, babysitting, odd jobs for vacationers).
- Financial planning (computing percentages for saving, tithing, offerings, gift-giving and assuming responsibility with parental oversight).
- Beginning car maintenance (helping dad with minor repairs, learning tool usage, washing/waxing).
- Help rearrange furniture. Help plan the layout.
- Run own bathwater.
- Help others with their work when asked.
- Shop for and select own clothing and shoes with parent.
- Change school clothes without being told.
- Fold blankets.
- Sew buttons and sew rips in seams.
- Clean storage room.
- Clean up animal “messes” in the yard and house.
- Cut flowers and make a centerpiece.
- Pick fruit off trees.
- Build a campfire, get items ready to cook out (charcoal, hamburgers).
- Paint fence or shelves.
- Help write simple letters.
- Write thank-you notes.
- Help with defrosting and cleaning the refrigerator.
- Feed the baby.
- Polish silverware, copper, or brass items.
- Clean patio furniture.
- Wax living room furniture.
- Change sheets and put dirty sheets in hamper.
- Buy groceries using a list and comparative shopping.
- Cross streets unassisted.
- Keep own appointments.
- Receive and answer own mail.
- Wait on guests.
- Plan own birthday.
- Simple first aid.
- Do neighborhood chores.
- Sew, knit, or weave (even using a sewing machine).
- Do chores without a reminder.
- Learn banking and to be thrifty and trustworthy.
- Handle sums of money up to $5.00.
- Be alone at home for short periods.
- Take the city bus to selected destinations.
- Proper conduct when staying overnight with a friend. Pack own suitcase.
- Responsible for personal hobby.
- Handle self properly when in public places alone or with peers.
11 – 12 years
- Join outside organizations, do assignments, and attend. Able to take responsibility as a leader.
- Put siblings to bed and dress them.
- Clean pool and pool area.
- Respect others’ property.
- Run own errands.
- Mow lawn with supervision.
- Help Father build things and do family errands.
- Schedule himself time for studies.
- Buy own sweets or treats.
- Responsible for a paper route.
- Check and add oil to car under supervision.
13 – 15 years
- Determine how late he should stay up during the week. Also determine how late he should be out for evening gatherings (through mutual parent-child discussion and agreement).
- Responsibility for preparing family meals.
- Social awareness: good health, exercise, necessary rest, correct weight, nutritious food, physical examinations.
- Anticipate the needs of others and initiate the appropriate action.
- Acceptance of capabilities and limitations.
- Self-respect or individual worth.
- Responsibility for one’s decision.
- Mutual respect, loyalty, and honesty in the family.
